Masturbation
Masturbation is stimulation of sex organs by self. It is a solo
activity. When two do it to one another, it is called "Mutual
Masturbation.” About 93 to 98 per cent of men and 60 to 80 per cent of
women do it. However, most of them do not accept it. It is supposed to
be a normal step in the development of sexuality. No harm is done if
they do it. Those who do it, find a sense of physical satisfaction and
release of mental tension. It familiarizes oneself with the sexual
response. A woman can experience orgasm through intercourse, if she has
learnt to have orgasm through masturbation. Men who do not have
ejaculation/orgasm are found to have no
experience of masturbation.
Masturbation is a taboo and lot of stigma is attached to it.
Boys feel that by doing masturbation, they become weak, get
pimples, go mad and their penis gets bent, decreases in size or get
tilted. Masturbation is supposed to cause impotence, liquify or exhaust
the stock of semen. Nothing is true. Scientists say that it is not at
all harmful but is beneficial. It is a safe sexual outlet. It does not
cause any bad effect either on the penis or on the general health. Since
it is a solo performance, it does not encroach upon anybody’s freedom
and it can be done at any time. It costs nothing. Masturbation is surest
way to prevent STD and HIV/AIDS infections. Sociologists feel that had
masturbation not been there, the rapes, homosexuality, prostitution,
sexually transmitted diseases and HIV/AIDS would have been on increase.
Boys are worried about the loss of semen which is supposed to be a
precious and vital fluid. In fact semen is a fluid meant for throwing
out of body. No harm is done if it is thrown out and no benefit it
obtained if it is preserved in the body. Sperms and the constituents of
the semen are continuously produced in the body. If the semen is not
ejaculated at intervals either by masturbation or in sleep, it gets
disintegrated and absorbed in the body. Some boys are worried that they
have done "too much” of masturbation and therefore, they have landed
into some problems like impotence or weakness. The fact is that there is
nothing like "too much.” Like sleep, thirst, hunger, the body knows its
requirements. The body craves only till the needs are satisfied. The
need of sex-outlet is great during the adolescence. Unlike the animals,
the human being cannot have sexual outlet freely with the opposite sex.
Nature itself teaches the alternative method of sexual outlet,
i.e., mastubation. Animals too masturbate by forelimbs or by rubbing
their penis against the trees. "Use it or loose it” is the rule of the
nature. The organ that is not used, will not continue to function.
Masturbation and wet dreams are nature’s attempts to keep the sex organs
functioning. Let us take the example of our tongue. If you attempt
talking, you may become an orator. If you don’t, you cannot be one. If
you talk too much, your tongue will not get bent, curved or slanting.
The same rule applies to penis. Not only unmarried men and women
masturbate, but married persons also do it when their partner is not
around or is sick. Elderly persons also do it. Intense desire for
masturbation amongst boys is because of high level of the hormone,
Testosterone. The frequency of masturbation is less in girls because
oestrogen hormone in them is not so sex-stimulating one.
Boys masturbate by moving the foreskin of the penis to and fro by
fingers or by the fist of the hand. Another common way is the rubbing
of penis to the bed, by moving the hip forwards and backwards. In either
way, the stimulation of the glans of the penis is continued to the
point of ejaculation. In fact, masturbation is imitation of the
intercourse. In masturbation, the penis is steady and the hand moves;
while in the intercourse the vagina is steady and the penis moves. In
either case, the effect remains the same. (It is something like whether
the barrel of the syringe moves or the piston moves, effect is same.)
The brain perceives the sensation from the penis in the same way either
through masturbation or through intercourse, and triggers the orgasm.
Therefore, the quality of orgasm from both these activities remain the
same. Hence, masturbation is a safe alternative for sexual intercourse.
Boys are under the impression that girls masturbate by
introducing long objects like banana in their vagina. It is wrong. They
do not introduce anything there since it is uncomfortable and not
pleasing. The sensitive part in girls are the clitoris and the labia
minora. Girls stimulate these parts by using fingers, by making rhythmic
movements of crossed legs or by a spray of running water. The frequency
of masturbation in girls is much less than that in boys. Does one get
addicted to masturbation? No. When he gets an opportunity to have sexual
relationship with the opposite sex, he can easily get switched over to
it. Masturbation could be bad only if there is obscession about it,
i.e., doing nothing else but masturbation thorughout the day. This is an
indication of psychological imbalance. In normal human beings this does
not happen. Masturbation does not affect the performance in sports.
Athletes who won the olympic medals have masturbated on the
previous night for the release of the tension and to get good sleep. It
is also found that the students masturbate more frequently during the
preparation time for their examinations. There are boys who wish to
discontinue the ‘habit’ of masturbation totally. First of all,
masturbation is not a habit or addiction like smoking or alcohol. It
does not harm as tobacco or alcohol does. Masturbation is a normal
expression of sexuality during the adolescence. The frequency decreases
as the age advances. It is not necessary to go against the stream of the
nature. However, the choice is theirs. They should start taking deep
interest in sports, physical exercises, music, painting, games etc. They
should develop some hobby and channelise their energy into these
directions. This is called "Sublimation.” They should make a decision
not to masturbate.
Every morning they should make the same decision for that day. If
they do not succeed they need not repent or feel disappointed. They
should make a fresh decision without any guilt feeling, because
masturbation is a healthy normal behaviour. If they stop masturbation,
it is normal; and if they continue to do it, that is also normal. Some
quacks take advantage of the guilt feelings of masturbation amongst
youth and prescribe ointments, pills for increasing the size of the
penis or making the semen (Dhaat) "powerful.” This is absolutely
cheating. Youths should not fall a prey to this unscrupulousness and
cheating. What harms in masturbation is not the act itself, but the
feeling of guilt and shame anxiety regarding the act.
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